Fear failure fear success
Fear failure fear success.
A common phrase and one that many of us have felt.
Everyone wants to achieve and be successful in something. It starts from an early age.
Parents, teachers or even family that are not supportive when we are young will make us carry negative feelings and those feelings carry on through to adulthood.
The fear of aiming to do something but too scared to in case we fail.
Without failing at something, we never learn how to succeed.
After all, success is produced from lots and lots of failures. It’s certainly not a bad thing though because with every failure, we learn something new.
Each time we learn something new, it’s another step towards succeeding.
It all comes down to a psychological way of thinking. In order to not fail and feel the negative impact of failure, we simply don’t carry out the task and stay in a comfort zone.
There is nothing wrong with a comfort zone and it does serves its purpose.
Sometimes it can be failures from the past but stay in whatever position an adult then finds himself in, they are reminded of that failure from years ago.
Knowing how it made them feel and the negative impact it caused, keeps them from feeling that way again.
It’s very easy to avoid something that we are not good at than to attempt to try at it but fear the failure.
Some people grow up to be perfectionists. Everything has to be right. To avoid anything going wrong they simply avoid situations that they know will put them in an unnerving position.
There could be a potentially huge opportunity in front of someone, the chance to earn lots of money, to connect with hundreds of people over the world, to meet new friends.
Yet the voice in the head that tells us we will fail and we won’t be good enough to achieve it, gets in the way.
How do we know if we will fail, if we never try?
When I chat to new people, they inevitably ask how long I have been in my network marketing business.
“7 years” is my reply.
“Wow….that’s a long time “
Interesting. Why is it a long time ?
If you spoke to someone who works at a supermarket and they said that they’d been working there for 7 years, would you say “Wow, that’s a long time “ ?
No, of course not, so why do we say it in NM ?
Fear failure fear success
People join companies but when they don’t see immediate results, they quit.
This is usually before their first year.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not the highest earner or team builder- far from it -and the road hasn’t always been smooth but what matters to me is that I have never quit.
Even on the days when things were tough.
Imagine this scenario. A six-month-old baby begins to teach himself to crawl and spends hours, days, months perfecting the skill.
Many failures, many attempts, a long time with struggling with the concept, until they do eventually learn to crawl and that progress then leads on to learning to walk.
Would a baby quit because the struggle was too hard ?
Would a toddler say ‘This walking isn’t for me. It’s too difficult. I quit” ?
When we look at something challenging from a different perspective, it all makes sense.
If we quit, we only fail ourselves and none of us are born to quit. Just like a baby isn’t born to quit the challenge of crawling and walking. It’s part of learning and growing.
We would miss the friendships that we could make with like-minded others.
We all need a daily routine whatever we are doing. Whether its running a business, bringing up a family or supporting others in need.
I love what I do and the flexibility it gives me but most of all, I love the opportunity I have been given to use our products, meet amazing people and earn money too.
If you have been looking for a side hustle, love fragrances and helping others, get in touch so we can chat about what help you need in starting your own journey with FM.
Your new success starts here..